WhetherNor Not Marriage in the 21st Century Is A Worthwhile Pursuit
Marriagecrisis is one of the social problems in the 21st century. Despite thereligious and cultural doctrines recognizing the importance ofmarriage, the relationship between a man and woman has beenestablishedas a source of psychological torture, health problems, flawedparenthood and economic imbalances. As a result, most young peopledevelop criteria for selecting their marriage (Gotlieb 79). The wrongthing with these criteria is that people get old before achieving theright person. Consequently, those who reach the lateyear in their 30s or 40s become vulnerable to depression, economicchallenges, social isolation and rejection due to shrinking abilityto produce. Marriageis important,and people should marry to achieve the ultimate happiness, economicstability, social wellbeing and family love.
Relationshipbetween marriage and a happy life
Manyauthors have focused on the association between marriage andhappiness in life. One such author is Lori Gotlieb who in her article“Marry Him” expresses that it is important for men and women tomarry to achieve happiness. According to Gottlieb, single women attheir 40s are not happy (pp. 25-45). The reason for their unhappylife is that at this age, the chance of a woman getting a man tomarry her is small (Gottlieb 81). Besides the shrinking pool of men,her years of producing are also declining.
Afamily is an important unit in a community not only as a source oflove, cares,and support but also for fulfilling the cultural, social and economicneeds (Gabel pp.2-14). In this case, lack of a family can haveserious implications especially for a single woman since it bringsstress, loneliness, and rejection. Also, women at this age have todeal with cultural pressure due to the roles and responsibilities thesociety has placed on each gender.
Accordingto Gottlieb (77), the negativities such as rejection, societypressures, and psychological stress that single women experience attheir 40s hurts more than achieving the right marriage partner canhelp. Moreover, Gottlieb adds that being single hurts even more thanhaving depressing and tedious husbands (Gottlieb 83).Therefore,people should marry to achieve a family, social acceptance andemotional needs.
Careerand financial stability
Inthe article Bolick’s “All the Single Ladies,”marriage is glorified as the solution to economic problems in life.For instance, Bolick (6) explains a couple of things about marriage.First, “marriage has been both economic and political contractbetween two people.”In this case, the economic power of a partner matters. Second,marriage as a business should thrive while the skills of the twopotential mate develop. These statements reveal the contributionsmarriage has to both the economic and career stability of anindividual. For this reason, one desire for economic developmentshould lead to consideration of the mate’s skills, industriousness,thrift and resources as the attractive personality traits.
Also,Bolick reveals that lack of financial and educational opportunitiesforces women to “marry up” for economic stability (Bolick 9).Thisexplainsthe reason female are innately programmed to seek older men who haveresources for marriage than their equally aged males. However, due tothe transformation in gender employment and pays, societal norms havechanged, and financially stable females now prefer living single.
Desireto lead an autonomy life
Thereason most female nowadays prefer single life is because marriagetends to be against the desire to live independently. According toBolick (pp.2-6), men use their dominance to limit women’s economicand political capacity when in a marriage. Autonomy, as the freedomof self-governance, requires isolation and has been impactedhistorically. Evidently, the number of economically independent womenincreases due to the achievements of women’s movements in theperiod after 1970.
Sincethen, women have climbed the ladder of power and productivity whilemen have been falling behind (Bolick 5). Evidently, the median agefor marriage early since 1960 has changed from 23 for males andaround 20 for women to 28 and 26 respectively. Also,the percentageof the married people at that age has declined. In this case, it isclear what Bolick (7) mean by saying marriage in the modernworld has becomeabsolute.
Moreover,the reasonfor women’s need for autonomy has beeninfluencedby a postindustrial economy that has left many men without education,and fall of their earning unlike women who have acquired highereducation and their salary increased more than before (Bolick 9).Also, the rate of incarceration in the US has influenced the modernfamily
Benefitsof marriage to children
Marriagehas many benefits to the children. For instance, children born tosingle parents may experience economic and social pressures thatthose born to married parents may not undergo. Unlike those born tosingle mothers, children born to married parents are more likely togrow up going to school and healthier both physically and emotional("Why Children Need Married Parents" 2). Also, childrenrequire gender-specific support as they grow up. In this case, thepresence of both parents can determine their character andvulnerability to gender sensitive issues ("Why Children NeedMarried Parents" 3). Finally, a perfect marriage shapeschildren’s desire for their future marriage institutions. In thiscase, children born and raised by their biological parents are likelyto adopt good relationship when they become adults.
Marriageis important for the economic, social, cultural and politicalwell-being of both the parents and the children. However, mostdesired setting criteria for a partner seem destructive to theachievement of marriage. The reason for this is that people grow oldwithout children or family and end up depressed, rejected andeconomically unstable. In this case, people should marry not basedachieve happiness together with social, economic and psychologicalwellbeing.
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