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A Christian counselor has the duty to engage the client in aconstructive manner and explore solutions to their problems. Thecounselor should help the counselee to enhance problem-solving skillsand emotional expressiveness while reducing social isolation.However, the Christian counselor might face critical challengesthere is the need to ascertain the level of trust and his or herwillingness to accept the advice. Building rapport with the clientmight be a challenge because of the differing approaches and viewstowards life. The teachings from psychology might make it difficultfor the counselor to confront wrong behavior directly because such amove might create a rift between the parties and hinder theattainment of the set goals. It is imperative that the counseloravoids creating a situation that causes discomfort or confrontationas that would defeat the objectives of the counseling session.
It would be imprudent for a sensitive Christian counselor toconfront blatant sin in the life of the counselee. McMinn andAmerican Association of Christian Counselors (2011) observes that sinis an integral part of humankind and goes to the core of theindividual. Changing a person`s character and sinful dispositiontakes time and so the Christian counselor ought to be privy to thesechallenges.
According to McMinn and American Association of Christian Counselors(2011), the four perspectives of confronting sin are questioning,silence, pondering, and direct sensor. In line with this, I believethat the perspective that counselors might overlook is silence. Ineffect, silence has certain inherent benefits to the clients becauseit enables them to explore their guilty feelings, blame, and thentake the requisite corrective measures.
As a sensitive Christian counselor, I can address the sinfulbehavior in a client through a systematic approach that appreciatesthe inherent weakness of humanity. I would avoid blaming the clientdirectly for his or her behavior. On the contrary, I would seek tobuild rapport and trust with the client and cautiously address theconsequences of his or her actions. Ultimately, I would give theclient sufficient time to ponder over the situation.
First, it is important for Jim to understand that counseling canonly work if the counselee is committed to the outcomes. The factthat he comes for counseling sessions because of the tangiblebenefits is a wrong approach because he stands to benefit nothing.However, I would understand the challenges he faces and give him timeto ponder over them as I review his case. I would avoid blaming himfor the weaknesses that he exhibits because that would create abarrier between the two of us, which would ultimately hurt theprocess. I would strive to build a therapeutic relationship with himas McMinn and American Association of Christian Counselors (2011)suggest.
It would be unprofessional and unchristian to have Jim have his waybecause that would hurt him and his children more. Jim has facedconsiderable challenges in his life, including a troubled childhood.A Christian counselor should confront the sins in his life byfollowing the four perspectives of questioning, pondering, directrebuke, and silence. However, I would avoid reprimanding the clientbecause that would make him relapse into sin, which would becounterproductive. My objective would be to help Jim to find theright footing so that he can take care of his children and himself.
McMinn, M. R., & American Association of Christian Counselors.(2011). Psychology, theology, and spiritualityin Christian counseling. Wheaton, Ill: Tyndale House