Atime I mourned
Oneof the saddest and memorable moments for me was the loss of mygrandfather. Losing a loved one leaves a big gap in the life of thefamily members due to the bondage that had been established. My lifewas almost brought to a standstill and questions ran through my mindas to why this tragedy had to befall us. I directed all my questionsto God as I perceived that our family was being disciplined formisconduct, even if it was so, I felt this was more than apunishment. The deep connection between grandfather and me made medesire for death so that I could be with him.
Mygrandfather played a significant role in my life during my childhood.He was dear and influential in my life. As a child, his primaryobjective was to instill happiness within me he transformed sadmoments into happy, memorable moments. Thoughts crisscrossed throughmy mind as his death evoked adamant memories. I was utterlydevastated on receiving the news informing me about his demise. Thiscame as a surprise to me since I did not know that he was ill, bothmy parents and cousins choose not to tell me. Their reason for actingthis way was to avoid interfering with my final examinations for thesemester which were due to commence. However, I was not satisfiedwith this reason since we are only given one life to live, and if Iwere informed earlier, I would have shared my sympathies his demise.
Eventsof that fateful Thursday afternoon still linger on my mind. It wasvery unusual to see my mother pass by the campus to see me. Herappearance was quite strange. I had never seen her this way. She keptquiet for a while, and when she became talking, her voice was shakyand only managed to murmur words which were unclear to me. At thismoment, it became apparent to me that something was wrong. Afteraround fifteen minutes, she received a call from my father, who wasseeking to know our whereabouts. After a short while, he was able tojoin us. It was a surprise to see both of them on campus and at thatparticular time. From his appearance, my father was a troubled manbut appeared high as he managed to control his emotions. He managedto break the news to me, all along my mother was sobbingcontinuously. I was totally shocked. It became apparent to me howpainful it is to lose a loved and the need to embrace every moment oflife wholly. I entirely believed my parents hence I did not doubt thetruthfulness of this information.
Sinceclasses were over, I took my backpack and joined my parents on thejourney to my grandfather’s place. The drive appeared to be longerthan usual. No one was talking. Finally, we approached the home. Theenvironment was very familiar to me, and immediately I stepped downfrom the car, I was taken aback with the happy memories that thisplace harbors. Everything appeared to be fresh in my mind as if theyoccurred yesterday. I never thought a place of happy memories couldturn out to be the same venue for my worst memories. Tears freelyrolled down my cheeks. Death had taken away everything memorable, mybest friend and the kindest person life had ever brought my way. Ipitied my grandmother. I just could not understand how she wouldovercome this tragedy given her frailty and lack of not only acompanion but also a helper. At times, she appeared to comfort me,but deep within, I knew she was the one who needed comfort.
Aweek later, the day had come when we were to give our final goodbyeto our grandfather. Family friends and neighbors joined in wishingthe final farewell. Different people were given a chance to speak andexpress their condolences. Later at around midday, it was time tohead to the cemetery where we laid him to rest. Indeed, I would neverforget this moment of my life.